Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Marriage and such and so on.

Do you take her??? And do you take him??? Oh of course!! What a simple answer to a simple question...Or is it? I think people seldom realize how complicated such question can be.

For those have you that have been married for any length of time, I think we kinda giggle at the simplicity of the occasion of a wedding. Of course we do.....Of course we take them for better or worse...there could never be anything better in the whole wide world than the person standing in front of me. What a simple, silly question....

AND THEN, reality sets in... A few years and some kids later, an then people think, AHHHH what have I done!! This is no longer fun for me! Reality has set in!

Well....Here's a reality check. Marriage as wonderful and blissful and romantic as it seems, is WORK....You must WORK to make it fabulous. It is not a romance novel... I know, I know, this may come as shock to most, but if you want it, you WORK for it. And hard work, is worth it...It CAN be the most rewarding, romantic, wonderful thing you will EVER do in your life..

So all I can say is, don't sweat the small things. You will fight, argue, disagree, despise, BUT you will also LOVE, KISS, HUG, LAUGH, and SMILE. And that, to me, is the best part. If you ask me, "what do you guys fight about???" I will say "hmmm, not really sure"... BUT if you ask me "What is your favorite thing about being married?" I will say...........

"I come home to my best friend everyday...I know no matter what I say or what I do, he loves and forgives me".. I will say "I have the most wonderful person watching over my home".....I will say "No matter what happens, I trust him not only with my life, but with our child's"...

So I ask you, how many people can you say that about? How many people would you trust with everything you have???

I just felt I needed to share how much marriage means to me. To me, it is the most important..

So, just a an FYI here are few rules that Jeff and I share to make our marriage as strong as it can be.

1. NEVER leave the house when angry...(you may however go to another room)
2. The "D" word has NEVER been used in our home. No matter how angry we get.
3. I don't care how ticked we are at another, I ALWAYS say "I love you"
4. We always try to remember, there is no right or wrong, there's is just different. Just because your opinion is different than mine, does not mean it's wrong.

Ok, sorry about gettin on my soapbox...Just thought I needed to share what has made us successful for the last 10 years.

Love to you all!

2 comments:

AdamandKaylasmommy said...

=)

IAN AND ALYSSA said...

Hey! I just ran across your blog! I loved the marriage post. I feel the same way! He's gonna have to kill me if he wants rid of me HA! Anyhow, I saved your blogspot address. Have a great rest of the week : )